It never ceases to amaze me, the comments that come to those of us who are "childless", from those closest to us, to complete strangers. The whole term "childless", and how often it is used is a point of contention with me. OK, sort of obvious by the title of this entry. Reference to someone as childless, or without children, automatically assumes that we are meant to have children. If we don't, we are somewhat left with LESS, or WITHOUT.
I would like to go on record here to say that I am also without cat, bird, fish, snake, RV, boat, second home, motorcycle, parachute and a firearm among other things. Do you think it will be written in my obituary that I was RVless, fishless and without a second home? Most likely, it will be written somewhere that I was childless, although I am doing my best to assure this does not occur for either me or my husband.
For some of us the decision to not have children was a choice, for others of us it was out of our hands. Not unlike other decisions in life. It does not make us more selfish, it does not give us the freedom to do anything we like, whenever we like. It does not remove us from responsibility to help raise, mentor and support our nieces, nephews, godchildren and children of our friends throughout their lives.
AND by the way, we take baths because we like baths, NOT because we don't have children.
This was the latest comment given to me referencing my "childlessness". I was on a recent business trip with a group from work, and we were staying in a wonderful place. I commented that the bathtubs in the rooms were the same as the one we had installed at our previous home, and that it was the best tub. The conversation went right to "who has time to bathe?". I said I thought it was one of the best ways to relax. Then someone said "that's right, you don't have children, you have time to take a bath".
To those with children, I am so sorry you're bathless.